A Quick Dash to Nash

I had a truly memorable Memorial Day weekend this past May of 2023.  The goal was to visit my big sister Casandra who moved to Nashville almost a year ago.  And of course to see her daughter MoNa, her son-in-law Kevia and their rambunctious 6 year old son, Harlem.

 

Memorial Day is not called the “unofficial start to Summer” for nothing.  It seems as if everybody and their grandmother (smile) was driving that weekend on the road, flying in the air, or using some mode of public transportation during this much anticipated prelude to Summer.

 

What usually happens when we now adult Hollis children go to a new place or space to visit family, is we try and incorporate at least one African American cultural activity into the trip.

 

In this case it was easy, almost too easy:  a trip to the National Museum of African American Music or NMAAM as it is referred to.   NMAAM is conveniently located in downtown Nashville so we did not have to travel far as my sister Casandra lives only about 15 to 20 minutes outside the city limits.

 

Parking the car in a garage was pretty steep ($45) and you really have no choice if you drive as there is very little if any available street parking downtown.

 

The ticket prices to the museum (which we ordered online on the NMAAM website the night before) were $24.95 for Adults (me) and $18.75 for Senior Citizens (Casandra).  Just so you are aware, the rest of the ticket prices are as follows:  $18.75 for Students and Teachers with ID, Military and Senior Citizens; $13.50 for Museum Guests aged 7 to 17 and Free for Visitors 6 years of age and under.

 

 

While there, for just $5.00 more you will receive a NMAAM wristband which allows you to  download multiple genres of music (up to 500 songs!) to create your own music playlist as you touch and explore your way throughout the museum.  This music link is sent to your email address a week or so later for you to  download to your Apple or Spotify account.  Very cool!

 

NMAAM wristband

 

Incidentally, NMAAM also offers visitors an annual membership with lots of special perks and education and programs for groups and special outings.

 

The NMAAM brochure tells you it takes 90 minutes to explore the museum (as it features timed admission) but it took me and Casandra 3 hours as there is so much to see and do!  By the way, there is no extra charge if it takes you longer than the 90 minutes (smile).

 

At the entranceway to the National Museum of African American Music

 

The museum is broken up into 6 rooms which each feature a different genre of music and its history.

 

Casandra descending the staircase

 

It is fascinating to discover just how intertwined the music is with the historical happenings of each era.

 

 

The Roots Theater focuses on African American history and its music.

 

Wade in the Water (one of my personal favs) showcases how gospel music and its rich history has more than influenced religious music.  This gallery featured an interactive room where me and Casandra went in, donned the requisite church choir robes and stood in front of the Green Screen so we could sing along with the Gospel Choir.  The ending was sweet as we were both magically inserted into the Gospel Choir (smile).  We saved this download to our NMAAM wrist band so we could view it later on at home.

 

An African American Gospel Choir

 

Crossroads chronicles the time in the Deep South (and after slavery) when work songs and field songs (i.e., the Blues) was prevalent.

 

Lots of ‘photo ops’ throughout the museum

 

A Love Supreme highlights the Jazz era in African American music and culture.

 

Louis Armstrong an African American Trumpeter and pioneer in Jazz music

 

One Nation Under A Groove records the time following World War I with the emergence of Rhythm and Blues…

 

Reminiscent of George Clinton…

 

The Message clearly narrates Hip Hop and Rap music and how it influenced (and continues to influence) pop culture in and around the World…this room featured a interactive DJ booth where we were able to select from one of 3 different rappers and then rap along with them.  Not surprisingly, the line to this interactive feature stayed long (smile).

 

Tupac Shakur, an influential and widely known and recognized African American rapper

 

Rivers of Rhythm featured the touch panels (found on the large glass tables)  throughout the NMAAM theater which allow the user to touch their way into an artist’s songs and biographies.  We downloaded lots of music to our NMAAM wristbands from these touch panels.  Incidentally every half hour or so a concert  played on the interactive walls (that day we jammed to the sounds of Prince, Tina Turner, and James Brown).

 

And just before you leave the museum, you will notice an art gallery featuring the works of very talented community artists.

 

 

There- also is a museum store called Amplify which sells beautiful NMAAM memorabilia at reasonable prices.

 

 

By the way, Casandra and I had the pleasure of bumping into Left Eye Lopez’s little sister Reigndrop who was at the museum that day creating a documentary  about her late sister Left Eye Lopez.  Here she is entertaining the lobby crowd in her own eclectic way.

 

Reigndrop is cool and talented too!

 

Also while in the lobby we could not help but notice the tribute to the legendary Tina Turner – who recently passed – you can’t showcase black music without including Miss Tina…may she Rest in Peace…

 

 

All in all, we had the best time eva and I would highly recommend this museum to anyone visiting the city of Nashville (or Nash as it is called).

 

Fun Fact:  I’ll never forget my big sister Casandra telling me years ago that even if we were not sisters, I would definitely be someone that she would want to be friends with.  I feel the same…

 

My Current Situation Part IX

It’s the season of what we like to call “Fall” in New England.  The days are short, the air is brisk and the leaves are “falling” from the trees.   I happen to like this season because the temperatures in Connecticut tend not to be too extreme plus it’s a great time to enjoy backyard bonfires.

 

 

It’s also cold and flu season so I scheduled my flu shot this coming week at my place of employment.  I was advised by my Primary Care Physician to get the Shingles shot this year which by the way comes in two separate doses.  I’m well over 50 but for some reason was advised to take care of it this year.  Our local pharmacy (Walgreens) made it real simple for me.

 

 

The drawn-out Covid pandemic (which could easily turn into a “Twindemic” with the upcoming Flu season upon us) is still causing me to pause as to what activities I should or should not participate in.  For instance, I went to see Erykah Badu a few weeks ago at the Hartford Healthcare Amphitheater in Bridgeport, CT because the people in charge were asking all attendees to be fully vaccinated and wear their masks.  However, I skipped going to an outdoor festival in Hamden, CT because there would be children there under the age of 12 who, at this time, cannot be vaccinated.   Decisions, decisions…

 

 

And as far as work goes I am currently in month 15 of working hybrid for the News 8 local sales department and I’m not mad about it (smile).  You see I enjoy working from home every other day because it keeps me in the practice of dressing up to go into work in the first place (smile).  I am forced to put on a nice dress or blouse and skirt every other day.  Otherwise I would just live in yoga pants and baseball caps (double smile).

 

 

I also get to touch base with my fav co-workers and experience a change of scenery from the home decor.  But working from home also has its perks:  those aforementioned yoga pants and baseball caps, no commute, noontime walks and healthy lunches.  Truth be told I actually work harder when I’m working from home as I still get up at the same time every day but on those days can begin at least an hour earlier, multi-task at lunchtime and end whenever I feel like it (after quitting time) since I’m already home.

 

 

Being a true fan of  Social Media, I am noticing more and more posts of people in general spending quality time with their families and their friends.  In my opinion the notion of Family is back in a Big Way and it is very apparent.  If nothing else comes from this pandemic, it will have shown us that Family and Relationships are truly what we all have been missing.

 

 

TVFL readers, have a Great Week.

 

 

My Current Situation – Part III

We are now entering the 6th month of living in a pandemic and needless to say, things have changed for me in Connecticut… here’s what I’m noticing:

Masks are still required when you walk into any workplace/school/retail store/restaurant/bank etc. (which, by the way, is not a problem to me…)

 

 

Gyms continue to operate at 50% capacity which forces me to work out from home on an online app 3 days out of the 5…and go to my gym I Love Kickboxing (at 5am) the other 2 days..

 

 

We Local Account Executives at News 8 continue to work from home every other day in a team hybrid fashion and to be honest, I’m not mad about it (smile).

 

 

Zoom calls (the way we now converse with each other and with our clients) are beginning to feel “natural” and “the norm.”

 

 

And I just returned from an actual vacay in Delaware where we drove to visit family and because I brought my latop with me, I did not miss a beat on my work load…

 

 

Virtual church is becoming “a thing” now, I can hear ‘The Word” from Pastor King at Christian Tabernacle Baptist Church right from the safety of my living room…

 

 

As far as golf goes, social distancing was already in place so other than having an electric cart all to myself, not much has changed there…

 

 

Self Care is becoming extremely important during this anxiety-ridden time…I am not feeling guilt at all about taking out quality time for myself as often as I need it…

 

 

And finally, my father and sibs mean the world to me so catching up with them via consistent family Facetime chats has become the best part of my week (smile).

 

 

 

 

 

 

A letter to my big sister Dana…

My big sister Dana passed away from stage 4 lung cancer on November 9th 2019.   She was 65 years old.  It was a shock to anyone who really knew Dana as she was truly larger than life.   Ironically Dana never smoked a cigarette a day in her life…

And as what usually happens after we lose a loved one, we often think about what we would say to them if we even had just 1 more day…The following is what I would say…I purposely chose to express myself in the form of a letter though as Dana was instrumental in encouraging all of her siblings to make good use of the written word – whether it was by writing letters to her when she was stationed at Pope Air Force Base wayyyy back in the day, sending heartfelt thank you cards to family members for birthday or holiday gifts received, or writing witty post cards from their own travel adventures.   Here I go…

 

Dear Dana,

I truly believe that you are the strongest woman I have ever known in the 57 years I have been on this earth.  I distinctly remember watching you (when I was a just a little girl) navigate your way through life.  You had 6 brothers and sisters all younger than you, yet you somehow managed to do a remarkable job babysitting us while still figuring out what you had to do to manage your own up and coming existence.  You were exactly 8 years older than me but it may as well had been a lifetime for all that you seemed to possess in the way of knowledge and from what very little I knew…

At night I would lay on the top bunk of my twin bed (which I shared with our sister Elena) and marvel at the “bedtime stories” you shared with us.  I hung onto your every word although I honestly did not “get” what you were saying (smile).

You were a remarkable storyteller, taking Elena and I from the craziness of your junior high and high school worlds in Groton, CT to the mysteries of wide world events.  I must admit, the wide world events you told us about really scared the heck out of me (why would anyone want to bomb anyone?!?) I would think, finding it hard to go to sleep.

Dana I also remember when you left our home at the tender age of 18 (with your red Samsonite luggage in tow) to make your way out into the world.  You chose to enroll in the United States Air Force.  I was all of 10 then and admired your decisiveness and bravery.  You made a promise to all of us that once you got yourself settled and bought your first home, you would come back each Summer (to Groton, Connecticut from Fayettville, North Carolina) and pick one of us up to spend the entire Summer with you.  I would have been 16 but I ended up being 15 when it was my turn to go (something came up for Elena that Summer so she could not take her turn).  I was never so excited that year as I had not experienced much in the way of travel.   As you very well know, Growing up Hollis (family of 9) we would (in our two-toned station wagon) regularly visit our cousins in Newport RI, and sometimes visit our paternal Grandfather in Niagara Falls, NY, and/or our paternal Grandmother in Newark, NJ.   That was the extent of our travel so Fayettville, North Carolina was a real treat and a completely different way of life which I’m still thanking you for.   I learned a lot those two summers down South and grew in so many ways.

By the time you completed your stint in the Air Force and moved back to Connecticut,  you were now married to former Air Force Sargent Clifford Babb and had 2 young children – Keedah and Ahmad.  This was my first real experience at being an Aunt so while you were busy working full-time on the 3rd Shift at Electric Boat in Groton, CT, taking courses part-time at UNH in West Haven (Groton campus) and being a full-time wife and mother, I would help you out where I could in the babysitting department.  I was in high school then so I too had an inordinate amount of energy (smile).

After your employment at Electric Boat ended, you relocated to Baltimore, MD where you worked for a number of good companies:  PharmaKinetics, KPMG Peat Marwick and finally Enron (before the collapse) where you would travel back and forth to Enron’s headquarters in Houston, Texas living out your dreams.

I had graduated from college at this point so me, our late mother Jean, our sister Casandra, my girlfriends Sherry and Thais, their mother Yvonne and my girlfriend Gina would “shoot” up and down the highway from Connecticut to Maryland in the Summers to enjoy long weekends with you and the family which mostly included a Crab Feast to Nowhere Baltimore Crab Feast!

We got to know downtown Baltimore very well because of you Dana and really enjoyed our time in that part of the country (smile).

Dana,  you had a sixth sense and were way ahead of your time as I distinctly remember you talking to us about how you had to get out of Enron years after you started as you feared something terrible was about to happen.  Being the big- hearted person you were, you tried real hard to convince your co-workers to leave with you but no one took you seriously…

Being the go-getter that you were, you quickly obtained new employment out of state as an Independent Contractor with New Jersey Transit Authority.  It was here where you worked your way up to  Project Manager and spent the next 17 years honing a lifetime of skills and finally performing the gratifiying and rewarding work you were made for.

Dana, you lived in a beautiful apartment home in Newark, NJ the first half of your career so me and the family were also able to witness the true gentifrication of the City of Newark.  We had visited Newark long ago when we were children so we  were all completely surprised by the ‘new’ Newark (smile).

You then purchased a large home in Hillside, NJ so that your daughter and 4 grandchildren (whom two you now had custody of) would all live in one place and belong to a better school system.

Dana, your life was extraordinarily busy in New Jersey as now you were working full time at New Jersey Transit Authority; regularly taking Continuing Education courses in your industry in various states; raising your 4 grandchildren; working on Concrete Roses and Boys to Men: the Summer programs for At Risk Teenagers you both founded and directed; volunteering at your AME Church; doing travel consulting on the side with Cruise Planners – The Yellow Brick Road; etc., so we were only able to get together with you and your family maybe 3 or 4 times a year (at combined birthdays and holidays).   We made the best of what family time we had together though didn’t we:  often sharing pictures from our own individual adventures or telling stories about shared family history over meals.

Dana I must say I’ll never forget the weekend of July 4th 2018 as God called and directed me to have a family barbeque at me and James’s house in Connecticut where we were to celebrate all of the Summer birthdays for the months of June, July and August (as well as Father’s Day).  Your birthday was on June 19th so you were included in this joint celebration.   I remember you sending Amazon box after Amazon box to our house well in advance of the date just to make sure you did not forget anyone.   You had such a big heart and truly took the time out to pick out gifts that the person would never look to return (smile).  Everything, and I mean everything fell into place on that fateful day…

 

Dana enjoying some of her own birthday gifts while brother Michael looks on.

 

Dana and the family enjoying the barbecue and festivities.

 

I did not of course know that you would be gone the following year but I did notice that you seemed awfully tired that day and not your normal energetic self…

What happened to you between October 2018 and October 2019 was a flurry of emergency room visits, hospital stays, surgeries, rehabilitation visits, at-home care, chemo treatments and such.  Me, my brother Michael, my sister Casandra and our Dad Jonie B., would visit you in New Jersey as often as we could and once there, try and make it the best day it could possibly be.

 

Here is one of our earlier visits when you were in the Rehab Center of the VA Medical Center in Lyons, NJ.

 

We also supplemented those in-person visits to New Jersey over all of those months with weekly family calls so that we could all stay connected.  You’ll be happy to hear that we decided those family calls should not go away but continue, as they truly help us all cope.

Dana I love you and want you to know that I truly believe you are in a much better place where there is no more anguish and no more pain, just lots of joy and, not to mention, family reunions.

P.S.  Here is your obituary – it was truly a labor of love that me, your daughter Keedah, our sister Casandra and your granddaughter Rashidah all collaborated on – please cut, copy and paste onto your browser to enjoy:

https://www.honoryou.com/programs/PDF/191123do.pdf

You’ll also be equally happy to hear that your brother Michael delivered your Eulogy on Saturday,  November 23rd to a packed house with a not a dry eye in sight!

 

Michael delivering Dana’s Eulogy to a packed house.

 

Love your baby sister Lajeune

 

It’s the little things…

Suddenly it’s the middle of Winter in Connecticut and even though we are not getting much snow this year I still find myself feeling just a little out of sorts…let’s see:  it’s cold, it’s dark and it seems like there’s not a heck of a lot to do for fun…

 

The older I get, the colder I get…

 

Here’s the good news: Spring and Summer are just around the corner and all of the outdoor activities we are missing are too (smile).

 

 

So since we have a little ways to go ’till then, allow me, the eternal optimist, to focus on some of the things you, your family and your friends can enjoy in the meantime in between time:

Skiing

There is plenty of downhill skiing in Connecticut to enjoy and the resorts are merely a car ride away.   Mohawk Mountain in Cornwall, Mount Southington in the Plantsville section of Southington, Ski Sundown in New Hartford, Woodbury Ski Area in Woodbury and Powder Ridge Park in Middlefield.

 

I love Ski Mount Southington

 

Ice Skating

I went ice skating a couple of years ago on my birthday and like riding a bike, it really does come back to you.  Growing up Hollis we kids spent a lot of time on the ice as Winters seemed to be longer, colder and snowier back in the day (smile).   The difference between ice skating then and ice skating now is now it takes me a few days to recover…

 

This is fun just as long I don’t fall (smile)

 

Reading in front of a warm fireplace

This one’s easy because it doesn’t take much effort and it offers plenty of warmth and relaxation.  Not to mention down time…

 

Fireplaces were made for cold Winter

 

Cooking and Eating Comfort foods

Anyone who really knows me knows if I had my way I would have my own personal chef cooking me healthy gourmet meals each and every day.

 

I’m nobody’s chef but I do enjoy cooking when the temperatures drop

 

Watching old movies

I love watching old B & W movies and binge-watching new series’, especially when it’s too cold to venture outdoors…

 

There’s nothing better on a cold Winter day than a good old movie, a comfy chair and some hot buttery popcorn – yum!

 

Going to the museum or a live theater

It’s wonderful to lose yourself in the experience of a museum exhibit or live theater performance – lucky for us the New Haven area is known for both…

 

 

Spa Day

Pampering yourself works for any season but it feels oh so lovely in the dead of Winter (smile).

 

 

So…that’s my list, what’s yours?!?