Frog Eyed and Bushy Tailed

I was raised in the small town of Groton, Connecticut (population around 40,000). I graduated from Mary Morrison Elementary School, Robert E. Fitch Jr. High School and Robert E. Fitch Sr. High School.   And, as is the case of most small towns, the “legal age” residents (like myself back then) were usually looking for something fun and/or exciting to do post graduation.

 

I was in luck that year.  It was 1980 and the nightclub scene in Groton and the surrounding towns and cities was lit!   Again this is wayyyyyyy back in the day so Disco music was very popular.   And the dance scene was all the rage.  Saturday Night Fever had already shown at the movies so everyone was looking to out-do John Travolta and his partner on the dance floor (smile).  I personally liked Disco Music because it was fast paced with heavy bass and lots of beats.   Disco dance tunes also seem to go on forever when dancing.

 

 

I so vividly remember this time in my life.  Going to nightclubs at 18 (which, incidentally, was the drinking age back then) and having plenty of options to choose from.  It was a different time, for instance I was able to survive on very little sleep (smile).   So starting the Summer before I left for college, I would ‘club’ 4 or 5 nights a week and still manage to get up in time to work not one, but two jobs – as a full-time Drive-Through-Window Cashier at Wendy’s Hamburgers in Groton and as a part-time Cashier at a small grocery store directly up the street from Wendy’s.

 

I recall on weekdays diligently packing my large overnight bag with my Wendy’s uniform, my grocery store tunic and Levi jeans, and my nightclub gear.  I had a long day ahead of me so preparation was key (smile).  After getting off from the grocery store, I would excuse myself and go to the ladies room in the rear of the store to wash off and get dressed for the evening.  My bff Connie would then pick me up If I was not driving my mother’s blue Mustang (smile).

 

And grabbing food on the go was a cinch as I truly had a cast-iron stomach.  I would inhale Wendy’s French fries dipped in tartar sauce for breakfast and wash it down with a delicious chocolate Fribble.  Lunch would sometimes consist of a Wendy’s Crispy Fried Chicken with Cheese Sandwich and a Dr. Pepper.  Dinner could be a Junior Whopper with cheese and fries courtesy of Burger King.  Healthy eating was not a factor in my life then.   And “clean eating” to me consisted of washing my hands before and after I ate and wiping the corners of my mouth while eating a messy burger (smile).

 

 

Rhana Pippins, located in a shopping center called Lighthouse Square in Groton,  was the premier Disco nightclub as well as ya girl’s personal fav.   There were other nightclubs in town but everybody went to Rhana Pippins on Wednesday nights and I mean everybody!  As it turned out, the ambience was key – it was beautiful inside with gargantuan frogs which served as the motif and doubled as speakers.  Also Wednesday nights was the traditional Ladies Night and word had spread quickly throughout Connecticut about free admission for the ladies, the Chippendale male strippers, the cheap drinks and the hunky men who arrived afterwards…

 

The iconic matches – perfect for getting those 7 digits (smile).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Saturday nights at Rhana’s Pippins were also Fire!  There was a different vibe on Saturday nights though, people came dressed to impress.  Saturday Night Fever had revolutionized the nightclub scene so it wasn’t uncommon to see men dressed in open collared shirts and designer threads.  It also wasn’t uncommon to be entertained with an upscale fashion show and/or other nightclub event.  I found the crowd older and more sophisticated on Saturday nights and therefore preferred the Wednesday night crowd (smile).

 

This hottie (who happens to be my older brother Michael) was def a crowd pleaser (smile)

 

Fun fact:  Rhana Pippins means frogs in Latin.  I often wondered why the dance floor was surrounded by gargantuan frogs that doubled as speakers.  I also uncovered this tidbit:   West Hartford, Connecticut’s own native Suzanne Langlois designed the interior of the nightclub.  Very Cool…

 

 

Anyway on Wednesday nights at Rhana Pippins, me and my BFF Connie, fresh out of high school and feeling ourselves, were quite literally the first females to break out with dressy shorts, nice blouses and low heels.   At first the other females were looking at us like we were crazy for wearing shorts at night (dressy or not!) and then suddenly everybody was doing it (smile).   We also couldn’t forget our sunglasses.  Sunglasses at night.  It made us look cool, dark and mysterious (smile).

 

 

Connie and I were at the age where we didn’t think we were cute, we knew we were cute (LOL!) and we went to Rhana Pippins on Wednesday Nights not because the Chippendale dancers were there but because of the free admission, cheap drinks and hunky men who came in later.

 

 

My drink of choice back then was at first Seagrams 7 & 7 and then Alabama Slammers or better known as a “Southern Slammers.”   By the time I was in my early 20s,  I had graduated to Long Island Iced Teas (you can’t go wrong with 7 different liquors – LOL!).

 

Alabama Slammer

 

As soon as the Chippendale dancers begin to come out on the dance floor me and my BFF Connie quickly headed to the rear of the nightclub close to the large bar, sipping our drinks on the bar stools and watching the comedy parade unfold.  The “30+ something” married women were always one of the largest demographics on Wednesday nights and seemed to also be the most aggressive, waving their dollar bills in the air and gyrating their hips like they just don’t care (smile).   The former was so the Chippendale dancers would come over to give them big kisses and more…

 

Connie and I weren’t paying them any mind, we were doing our own thing,  chit chatting, snapping our fingers to the music and slowly sipping our drinks until the “real men” arrived.   By this time we were thoroughly liquored up and ready to partaaay!!!   We were young and cute and therefore always asked to dance.  Once out on the dance floor we gravitated towards the middle where the huge mirror ball hung with its sparkling multi-colored lights and lost ourselves in the music…

 

Must Be The Music

 

At 2am, Rhana Pippins shut down for the night but Connie and I were not ready to go home.  IHOP in Groton was the place to be after all the nightclubs closed.   And around that time we were famished so we ordered large breakfast food (pancakes and sausage and coffee or eggs, bacon, toast and coffee) and talked throughout the night with our respective dates.

 

 

I would get home just in time to get in 2 hours of sleep before the alarm clock went off then I would shower, dress and start my day all over again.  Frog eyed and Bushy Tailed (smile).

 

P.S.  Rhana Pippins was my number one nightclub choice back then but here are some notable mentions:  The Love Boat, Christopher’s and Atlantis in Misquamicut, Rhode Island just to name a few.   However, they still didn’t compare in my eyes to Rhana Pippins which to me had it all: ambience, music, fashion shows, dance-offs, a variety of specialty drinks and lots of eye candy (smile).

 

And incidentally, Sundays were for Church service and Mondays were our ‘official rest days’ (smile).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My Current Situation Part IV

The season of Fall happened about 3 weeks ago in the state of Connecticut and with it comes decreasing temperatures, lots of fallen leaves on the ground, dark skies and squirrels running amok.   Soon I will be packing up my golf clubs in advance of the next season:  Winter.  But for now I am still managing to hit golf balls despite the broken twigs, crispy leaves and tree debris.

 

 

Fall for me also means it’s time to head back to the kitchen.  Anyone who knows me knows cooking is not my thing however I do enjoy cooking when Autumn arrives…

 

 

We have also finally entered Phase 3 in the state of Connecticut which means that restaurants can serve folks indoors at 75% instead of 50%  capacity…

 

 

personal services, hair salons, barber shops and nail salons can also operate at 75% percent capacity, indoor performing art venues at 50% capacity, and churches and other places of worship can have 50% capacity, capped at 200 people.  All, of course, with masks and social distancing…

 

 

Working hybrid continues for me and my colleagues on the News 8 sales team.  What this means is we are split into 2 teams and half the team works from the office on one day and the other half of the team works from the office on the following day.  The managers all go into the office each and every day.  It has been like this since mid-March when Covid 19 totally changed our world.

 

On every other day

 

The Presidential election is quite literally right around the corner so I encourage everyone to exercise their right to vote.   It’s more critical now more than ever…

 

 

A letter to my big sister Dana…

My big sister Dana passed away from stage 4 lung cancer on November 9th 2019.   She was 65 years old.  It was a shock to anyone who really knew Dana as she was truly larger than life.   Ironically Dana never smoked a cigarette a day in her life…

And as what usually happens after we lose a loved one, we often think about what we would say to them if we even had just 1 more day…The following is what I would say…I purposely chose to express myself in the form of a letter though as Dana was instrumental in encouraging all of her siblings to make good use of the written word – whether it was by writing letters to her when she was stationed at Pope Air Force Base wayyyy back in the day, sending heartfelt thank you cards to family members for birthday or holiday gifts received, or writing witty post cards from their own travel adventures.   Here I go…

 

Dear Dana,

I truly believe that you are the strongest woman I have ever known in the 57 years I have been on this earth.  I distinctly remember watching you (when I was a just a little girl) navigate your way through life.  You had 6 brothers and sisters all younger than you, yet you somehow managed to do a remarkable job babysitting us while still figuring out what you had to do to manage your own up and coming existence.  You were exactly 8 years older than me but it may as well had been a lifetime for all that you seemed to possess in the way of knowledge and from what very little I knew…

At night I would lay on the top bunk of my twin bed (which I shared with our sister Elena) and marvel at the “bedtime stories” you shared with us.  I hung onto your every word although I honestly did not “get” what you were saying (smile).

You were a remarkable storyteller, taking Elena and I from the craziness of your junior high and high school worlds in Groton, CT to the mysteries of wide world events.  I must admit, the wide world events you told us about really scared the heck out of me (why would anyone want to bomb anyone?!?) I would think, finding it hard to go to sleep.

Dana I also remember when you left our home at the tender age of 18 (with your red Samsonite luggage in tow) to make your way out into the world.  You chose to enroll in the United States Air Force.  I was all of 10 then and admired your decisiveness and bravery.  You made a promise to all of us that once you got yourself settled and bought your first home, you would come back each Summer (to Groton, Connecticut from Fayettville, North Carolina) and pick one of us up to spend the entire Summer with you.  I would have been 16 but I ended up being 15 when it was my turn to go (something came up for Elena that Summer so she could not take her turn).  I was never so excited that year as I had not experienced much in the way of travel.   As you very well know, Growing up Hollis (family of 9) we would (in our two-toned station wagon) regularly visit our cousins in Newport RI, and sometimes visit our paternal Grandfather in Niagara Falls, NY, and/or our paternal Grandmother in Newark, NJ.   That was the extent of our travel so Fayettville, North Carolina was a real treat and a completely different way of life which I’m still thanking you for.   I learned a lot those two summers down South and grew in so many ways.

By the time you completed your stint in the Air Force and moved back to Connecticut,  you were now married to former Air Force Sargent Clifford Babb and had 2 young children – Keedah and Ahmad.  This was my first real experience at being an Aunt so while you were busy working full-time on the 3rd Shift at Electric Boat in Groton, CT, taking courses part-time at UNH in West Haven (Groton campus) and being a full-time wife and mother, I would help you out where I could in the babysitting department.  I was in high school then so I too had an inordinate amount of energy (smile).

After your employment at Electric Boat ended, you relocated to Baltimore, MD where you worked for a number of good companies:  PharmaKinetics, KPMG Peat Marwick and finally Enron (before the collapse) where you would travel back and forth to Enron’s headquarters in Houston, Texas living out your dreams.

I had graduated from college at this point so me, our late mother Jean, our sister Casandra, my girlfriends Sherry and Thais, their mother Yvonne and my girlfriend Gina would “shoot” up and down the highway from Connecticut to Maryland in the Summers to enjoy long weekends with you and the family which mostly included a Crab Feast to Nowhere Baltimore Crab Feast!

We got to know downtown Baltimore very well because of you Dana and really enjoyed our time in that part of the country (smile).

Dana,  you had a sixth sense and were way ahead of your time as I distinctly remember you talking to us about how you had to get out of Enron years after you started as you feared something terrible was about to happen.  Being the big- hearted person you were, you tried real hard to convince your co-workers to leave with you but no one took you seriously…

Being the go-getter that you were, you quickly obtained new employment out of state as an Independent Contractor with New Jersey Transit Authority.  It was here where you worked your way up to  Project Manager and spent the next 17 years honing a lifetime of skills and finally performing the gratifiying and rewarding work you were made for.

Dana, you lived in a beautiful apartment home in Newark, NJ the first half of your career so me and the family were also able to witness the true gentifrication of the City of Newark.  We had visited Newark long ago when we were children so we  were all completely surprised by the ‘new’ Newark (smile).

You then purchased a large home in Hillside, NJ so that your daughter and 4 grandchildren (whom two you now had custody of) would all live in one place and belong to a better school system.

Dana, your life was extraordinarily busy in New Jersey as now you were working full time at New Jersey Transit Authority; regularly taking Continuing Education courses in your industry in various states; raising your 4 grandchildren; working on Concrete Roses and Boys to Men: the Summer programs for At Risk Teenagers you both founded and directed; volunteering at your AME Church; doing travel consulting on the side with Cruise Planners – The Yellow Brick Road; etc., so we were only able to get together with you and your family maybe 3 or 4 times a year (at combined birthdays and holidays).   We made the best of what family time we had together though didn’t we:  often sharing pictures from our own individual adventures or telling stories about shared family history over meals.

Dana I must say I’ll never forget the weekend of July 4th 2018 as God called and directed me to have a family barbeque at me and James’s house in Connecticut where we were to celebrate all of the Summer birthdays for the months of June, July and August (as well as Father’s Day).  Your birthday was on June 19th so you were included in this joint celebration.   I remember you sending Amazon box after Amazon box to our house well in advance of the date just to make sure you did not forget anyone.   You had such a big heart and truly took the time out to pick out gifts that the person would never look to return (smile).  Everything, and I mean everything fell into place on that fateful day…

 

Dana enjoying some of her own birthday gifts while brother Michael looks on.

 

Dana and the family enjoying the barbecue and festivities.

 

I did not of course know that you would be gone the following year but I did notice that you seemed awfully tired that day and not your normal energetic self…

What happened to you between October 2018 and October 2019 was a flurry of emergency room visits, hospital stays, surgeries, rehabilitation visits, at-home care, chemo treatments and such.  Me, my brother Michael, my sister Casandra and our Dad Jonie B., would visit you in New Jersey as often as we could and once there, try and make it the best day it could possibly be.

 

Here is one of our earlier visits when you were in the Rehab Center of the VA Medical Center in Lyons, NJ.

 

We also supplemented those in-person visits to New Jersey over all of those months with weekly family calls so that we could all stay connected.  You’ll be happy to hear that we decided those family calls should not go away but continue, as they truly help us all cope.

Dana I love you and want you to know that I truly believe you are in a much better place where there is no more anguish and no more pain, just lots of joy and, not to mention, family reunions.

P.S.  Here is your obituary – it was truly a labor of love that me, your daughter Keedah, our sister Casandra and your granddaughter Rashidah all collaborated on – please cut, copy and paste onto your browser to enjoy:

https://www.honoryou.com/programs/PDF/191123do.pdf

You’ll also be equally happy to hear that your brother Michael delivered your Eulogy on Saturday,  November 23rd to a packed house with a not a dry eye in sight!

 

Michael delivering Dana’s Eulogy to a packed house.

 

Love your baby sister Lajeune

 

It’s the little things…

Suddenly it’s the middle of Winter in Connecticut and even though we are not getting much snow this year I still find myself feeling just a little out of sorts…let’s see:  it’s cold, it’s dark and it seems like there’s not a heck of a lot to do for fun…

 

The older I get, the colder I get…

 

Here’s the good news: Spring and Summer are just around the corner and all of the outdoor activities we are missing are too (smile).

 

 

So since we have a little ways to go ’till then, allow me, the eternal optimist, to focus on some of the things you, your family and your friends can enjoy in the meantime in between time:

Skiing

There is plenty of downhill skiing in Connecticut to enjoy and the resorts are merely a car ride away.   Mohawk Mountain in Cornwall, Mount Southington in the Plantsville section of Southington, Ski Sundown in New Hartford, Woodbury Ski Area in Woodbury and Powder Ridge Park in Middlefield.

 

I love Ski Mount Southington

 

Ice Skating

I went ice skating a couple of years ago on my birthday and like riding a bike, it really does come back to you.  Growing up Hollis we kids spent a lot of time on the ice as Winters seemed to be longer, colder and snowier back in the day (smile).   The difference between ice skating then and ice skating now is now it takes me a few days to recover…

 

This is fun just as long I don’t fall (smile)

 

Reading in front of a warm fireplace

This one’s easy because it doesn’t take much effort and it offers plenty of warmth and relaxation.  Not to mention down time…

 

Fireplaces were made for cold Winter

 

Cooking and Eating Comfort foods

Anyone who really knows me knows if I had my way I would have my own personal chef cooking me healthy gourmet meals each and every day.

 

I’m nobody’s chef but I do enjoy cooking when the temperatures drop

 

Watching old movies

I love watching old B & W movies and binge-watching new series’, especially when it’s too cold to venture outdoors…

 

There’s nothing better on a cold Winter day than a good old movie, a comfy chair and some hot buttery popcorn – yum!

 

Going to the museum or a live theater

It’s wonderful to lose yourself in the experience of a museum exhibit or live theater performance – lucky for us the New Haven area is known for both…

 

 

Spa Day

Pampering yourself works for any season but it feels oh so lovely in the dead of Winter (smile).

 

 

So…that’s my list, what’s yours?!?

9 things I do not want to give up in 2019

My good, good work friend and fellow CT blogger Jamie Taylor (jamieeverafter dot com) inspired me to write this blog today when she recently posted about the things she was not willing to give up in the year 2019.   I “liked” her Insta post because this kind of thinking is the polar opposite of what you expect to hear from anyone in the early days of a New Year 😄.

At any rate, it got me thinking about my own will not give up list for 2019 so here  is that list (in no particular order):

 

Coffee

 I cannot leave the house without my coffee – nothing fancy, just a dark roast, completely black with natural sugar does the trick – I tried leaving the house without coffee once and it wasn’t pretty – I seriously thought I was coming down with something 😀

 

 

Edge Strong workouts

I cannot imagine doing what I do for a living without the benefits of a good workout each weekday morning.  It is not only a stress reliever but it also keeps me physically fit:   LJ: Stronger than before…

 

 

Social Media

Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, YouTube, Twitter, Yelp, you name it – I’m on it and loving every minute of it 😀   R U Social?

 

 

Pampering (hair/feet/nails)

It’s no secret that I have a weekly standing hair appointment at the salon every Saturday morning so getting my nails and/or feet done on a monthly basis is par for the course:    Put your slippers on…

 

 

Wine

I make my living as a TV/Digital/Social Media Account Executive in a highly competitive, pressure-cooker work environment.  I do this all on 100 percent commission so a nice glass (or two) of red wine is more than welcome on the weekends 😀    10 things I cannot live without today

 

 

Movies

As I’ve posted about before in TVFL, Growing up Hollis my mother Jean would take her 7 children to the movies on Saturdays armed with candy and snacks:    Movie Buff   To this day watching movies on TV, Mobile tablets or even at the theater is a regular pastime.

 

Salad (with protein)

I loooooove salad any time of the year – not just the Summertime and I pile my salad with some or all of the following ingredients: romaine lettuce, fresh veggies, mixed nuts, cheddar cheese, hard boiled eggs, sesame seeds, chick peas, grilled chicken, homemade croutons and low fat dressing.   The low fat dressing is a semi-joke considering what goes into building my salads 😀    New Haven, CT Fall(ish) eats! 

 

 

Golf

I finally learned how to play Golf last Summer at Lyman Orchards Golf Center in Golf Fore Women 101 and I must say I’m truly looking forward to the Summer again so I can hit the links with my newfound lady golf friends!   Ready Fore Golf

 

 

Beauty Sleep

Over the years I have alternatively read or heard that a good night’s sleep is overrated and you really don’t need that much rest for your body to function at it’s best.  I disagree.  When I get at least 7 hours of sleep at night I tend to be more mentally alert and better able to handle multiple tasks at hand the following day.    What it means to be a woman of a certain age…  

 

 

So that’s my list for 2019, what’s your’s?!?