Desert Love

Our 14th year love anniversary or “loveaversary” as my co-worker/friend Lisa coined it, occurs on the 8th of March every year.  We (me and James) decided to celebrate in Arizona this time around so we would literally be situated in a desert, clearly in love, and seeking a new experience.

We chose Phoenix as our city of destination not just because its the capitol of the state of Arizona, but also its largest city, boasting just over 1.6 million residents!   And we were eagerly looking forward to the sunny temps all week long, outdoor recreational  options, delish Southwestern/Mexican cuisine and a championship class golf course located right at the Hilton Phoenix Tapatio Cliffs Resort.

 

 

Day 1

Travel Day – Sunday –  Woke up in Connecticut before the crack of dawn (3am) to catch our early morning (6:05am) flight out of Bradley International Airport which, by the way, is looking mighty fine these days.  I’m truly loving all the building upgrades and seeing bits and pieces of what’s to come (smile).

After a 3-hour layover at our first stop in Chicago, not including the 1-hour long wait on the airplane for the de-ciing of the aircraft’s wings, we were finally on our way.   My legs felt like jelly 3 hours later as we walked off the airplane and into the Phoenix Sky Harbor International Airport.  We had quite literally been traveling all day long so we were barking at each other and ‘hangry’ as Hell (smile).   The number one place we looked for after we retrieved our bags and picked up our rental car was somewhere to eat.  We Googled “American Restaurants near me” and found a place that was not too far away.  It was called Culinary Dropout and it was super delish!  I was feeling very healthy so I quickly inhaled a Butternut Squash and Kale bowl with grilled chicken.

 

 

We drove around Phoenix for a while just to get a feel for things and found a Super Walmart so it was there that we picked up enough bottled waters and snacks to last us for the week.

Finally at the resort we checked in and then drove to Building 24 which was waaaay at the top of a hill.  I immediately unpacked my luggage because I’m anal like that (smile), took a shower and went to bed – my 20 hour day (and now officially on Mountain time) had finally come to an end.

 

Building 24 where we stayed

 

Day 2 – Resort Day – The Hilton Phoenix Tapatio Cliffs Resort is located just 20 minutes North of downtown and when you pull up in your car to the entrance, you truly feel like you are in a whole ‘nother world.  It is no wonder because the property is nestled into the rugged North Mountain Preserve in Phoenix.   The hotel grounds are massive and the views are breathtakingly beautiful.  Boasting 7 pools – some with hot tubs, a 138-foot water slide, waterfalls, plenty of lounge chairs with big umbrellas at each pool, spas,  dining options from the simple to the sublime, hiking trails, 16,000 square feet of conference and meeting space and a championship golf course.  We stayed in a King-sized Premium suite that was situated at the top of a hill so between our rental car, which we parked  directly in front of our building, and the 24/7 free shuttle service, we were good to go.

 

mid-sized rental car

 

convenient shuttle service call button

 

We deemed Day 2 our Rest and Relaxation day for obvious reasons so after we checked out the workout area, the championship golf course and two different pools, we wound up poolside at The Falls (smile) soaking in the sun.

 

The Falls was one of our fav pools

 

I ordered the delish Arugula salad with grilled chicken from Cascades Cafe.  By the way, the weather was awesome – 80s with a cool breeze.  And the forecast showed the same all week!

 

Seated at The Falls and getting ready to dig into my Arugula salad with Grilled Chicken

 

After a while we headed back to our hotel room to sit outside and enjoy the mountain views from our balcony.    Then we showered and changed for dinner.

 

Our hotel room balcony offered up some of the best views of the mountain

 

That night we chose A Point in Tyme for dinner – I had a flaky fried Cod fish sandwich on a brioche roll with a side salad and ice water with lemon.  It was delish!

 

Yummy!

 

After dinner the restaurant rang for our ride (shuttle) which showed up 6 minutes later to take us back to the room where we sat outside again on the balcony to enjoy the cool breezes.

 

Day 3 – ATV/UTV day

This was a tour that we both looked forward to.  Arizona Outdoor Fun & Tours was located about 35 minutes from our resort so we purposely left earlier then we would have since we didn’t know what the morning traffic scene in Phoenix was like.  We dressed in long pants and long sleeves which their website recommended except we wore sneakers instead of boots.  Upon arrival our tour guide asked us for one credit card and both of our state of CT driving licenses and gave us each a face mask and goggles to protect our eyes.    Next we all individually sat on folding chairs under a large tent so the staff could explain how to operate the ATVs and UTVs.    We chose the UTV as opposed to the ATV so we could ride together in one jeep and because they promised us a longer ride then we would have with the ATVs.  By the way, a UTV or Utility Terrain Vehicle rides like a car and is designed to carry anywhere from two to six people.  An ATV or All Terrain Vehicle is designed for one person and uses handlebars for hard steering.

 

This is our UTV – Utility Terrain Vehicle

 

Not surprisingly about 4 or 5 young ladies (maybe in their early 20s) showed up at the tour like they were dressed for a paid Social Media event.  They had on these teeny tight outfits and wore inappropriate footwear.   I almost felt sorry for them because they chose the ATVs not the UTVs and didn’t know it yet but they were in for a big surprise (smile).

Austin was our Tour Guide.  There were about 3 different UTVs groups going out when we left which each had their own Tour Guide.  We rode directly behind Austin which was good because in my mind there was less dust to catch (smile).   And Austin was the consummate Tour Guide,  patient, stopping for breaks if we needed them or just to tell us a story about a particular animal (donkey) or type of terrain.  And he always made sure that no one strayed.

 

Fun Fact about Donkeys in Arizona: It is illegal for a donkey to sleep in a bathtub originating from a donkey that floated away in a bathtub during a 1920s flood (smile).

 

It was a long, winding and dusty trail and quite honestly, I don’t know how Austin navigated it, as there are really no markers in the ground or trees to make it easy to remember.  He said he had been working at Outdoor Fun Adventures for almost 4 years and enjoyed taking people out for the time of their lives.  He also mentioned how the tour guides relied on tips because the pay (with no benefits) was a lot less than it would be at say, a 9 to 5 job.

 

Ready for the dusty ride of our lives (smile)

 

We were UTVing for 2 hours so when we returned there was dust everywhere – all over our shoes, our hair, our clothes.  So much so that I could not wait to get back to our hotel room to shower.  But first we stopped at Cascades Cafe on the resort for my fav Arugula salad with Grilled Chicken so I would not be “hangry” for our anniversary dinner at 730pm that evening.

 

The restaurant we chose to spend our 14th year love anniversary was literally up the hill from our building so even though we could walk, we decided to take a shuttle instead so I wouldn’t be walking up the hill in high heels (smile).  A Different Pointe of View (“American Cuisine with European Influences”) was situated right on top of a mountain so it had killer views and sunsets to die for.

Some diners chose not to eat in the dining room at all as the outdoor deck had plenty of seating and you were right in front of the beautiful sunset.  The only downside of eating on the outdoor deck was that you could only order drinks and light apps.  We stayed on the outdoor deck for a while as it was a perfect photo opp and then headed inside for our coveted table which featured a window view of the sunset.

 

photo ops abound on the outdoor deck of Different Pointe of View

 

Our dinner reservations were for 7pm that night in The Terrace Room of the 3-floors restaurant and we had 4 delicious courses.  The weather was perfect, the sunset was beautiful and the service was second to none.

 

Good choice of a restaurant to celebrate our 14th year loveaversary

 

Day 4 – Breakfast with Nephew/Driving range

One of my favorite jobs is being an Aunt.  I love all of my nieces and nephews and great nieces and great nephews and now grand nieces and grand nephews and they live all over the United States.  My 37-year old nephew Jasper lives in Mesa, Arizona which was about 30 minutes away from our resort so I arranged for Jasper to meet us at A Point in Tyme for breakfast.  I chose A Point in Tyme because they have a $25 dollar all-you-can-eat buffet as well as the regular breakfast menu.  Jasper and I ate from the regular menu and James chose the buffet.  Jasper and I had a wonderful time catching up on life before James arrived especially since he and his girlfriend had a beautiful baby boy a few weeks ago.   We were all at the restaurant for a good 2 hours before we had to say our goodbyes.

 

My handsome nephew Jasper who I miss already

 

After Jasper left, James and I headed right next door to Lookout Mountain Golf Course to get in some practice shots as we were booked for a 3pm tee time the very next day.

We had a light snack after our practice session since we made reservations for an early 530pm dinner that evening at Restaurant Progress – a place that my gym friend Penthy’s son Scott recommended.  As it turns out, Scott and his wife live in Phoenix and know the restaurant scene pretty well.  Penthy texted me a long list of places Scott provided – the list included where to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner but between the delish resort restaurants and the places nearby our planned outdoor tours and activities, Restaurant Progress was the only place from the list we had time to try out.

 

 

Restaurant Progress (a New American Restaurant) was a short 20 minute drive from our hotel.  James and I decided to take our knowledgeable waiter’s recommendation on what to order (small world – our waiter was also our shuttle driver at the resort from the night before) “Garrett” told us he has to work 4 jobs so he can afford his own apartment in Phoenix!

 

You might not be able to tell but I am stuffed in this picture as we were one course away from dessert (smile)

 

At Garrett’s recommendation we ordered the 5-course Chef’s Pick where the Chef prepared us 2 different dishes each course over the 5 courses so we could swap them out between each other and therefore sample the most variety of dishes.  We were sooooo stuffed by the time we got to the last course (dessert) but somehow managed to fit more food in our tummies (smile).

 

9 of the 10 courses from Chef’s Pick that we were served – can’t fit number 10 in this collage

 

Day 5 – Rainbow Ryders Hot Air Balloon Ride Day

Another early morning start to our day – up at 4am so we could make the check in time of 545am from the meeting point which was about 30 yo 35 minutes from our hotel resort.  This experience and tour was completely new to both of us.  I have to admit that I did not feel nervous at all.  Even after we signed our lives away (waivers) and they packed us all in multiple vans to head to the destination.  Each group had it own pilot as well as 2 staff members.  The 3 men collectively unfolded and used various equipment to inflate the balloon.  It was amazing to watch.  And it took a minute.  I saw a huge basket nearby and wondered how all 10 of us in the group were going to fit but somehow we did.  I remember a question on the waiver pertaining to our weight in pounds and now I understand why they asked.  The basket was bigger on the inside than it looked on the outside.  And the actual ride was peaceful and serene.  It was very early in the morning so the dress code was casual wear with a jacket since it’s cold (55 degrees or less) in Phoenix that early in the morning.  I was happy I dressed for the date because the wind was pretty strong and the air was chilly.  Lucky for us our Pilot kept firing up our balloon to make it go higher as we benefited from the blasts of heat.

 

An experience like no other – I would absolutely recommend it – just don’t look down!

 

While up in the sky we looked down at multiple housing developments with swimming pools,  miniature cars, lots and lots of empty land lots and plenty of mountains.  We were floating around for about an hour before we started to head back to the ground.   The actual landing was rough like an airplane’s landing but without the fear factor.  Climbing out of the basket was definitely one for the books – Ha!

 

Back on the ground

 

After we all settled our Pilot poured us a glass of Champagne and/or Juice and made a short toast to another successful journey.

The hot air balloon ride’s entire experience made us hungry so we stopped in Glendale, AZ for breakfast at a placed called Biscuits Cafe.  We figured you can’t go wrong with that name.  I was wrong.  I ordered the Biscuit Breakfast Sandwich (Eggs/Sausage/Cheese) with Hash Browns and a Coffee.  When the breakfast arrived I asked our waitress (once she got back to our table) how come my sandwich was on a roll and not a biscuit which I expected.  She said it’s called Biscuit Breakfast Sandwich because it is named after the restaurant. Aha!  She felt bad though and brought me a biscuit to swap the roll out with but by then I had already ate more than half of the sandwich as I was starving from the excitement of the morning (smile).

 

I spent about 3 hours poolside with my magazine while James took a nap.  We had a 3pm tee time at the much anticipated Lookout Mountain Golf course.  We borrowed a set of clubs from the resort and they gifted us each our own signature set of golf balls – 6 in all so I knew I had to make as many of my shots as possible (smile).

 

As all golf clubs do, we were matched up with 2 solo golfers (one named Christian who with his 2 brothers was staying on the same resort as us and the other named Jorge’ who actually lived in Phoenix and had enjoyed playing this course multiple times).

 

L to R – Me, James, Jorge’ and Christian – Jorge was a life saver because he knew the course well and therefore saved us a lot of lost balls

 

We set out for a sunny and beautiful afternoon of golf with our new golf friends.

 

This picture was taken right before sunset when the weather had turned cold and blustery

 

James and I played 14 holes before it got too cold for me (it was unusually windy that afternoon which caused the air to become cold).  It was also starting to become dark as sunset was near.  Christian and Jorge’  were happy to continue golfing but between the impending sunset and the now fierce winds I wanted to get back to our hotel to warm up.   We were starving though so we ate first right next door at the clubhouse – I had blackened shrimp tacos, chips and salsa.  The food was delish.  That night we packed our clothes as (sigh) we were leaving the next day for Connecticut.

 

My last delicious meal at the clubhouse – Blackened Shrimp tacos with salsa and tortilla chips

 

Day 6 – Travel Back to Connecticut Day

We got up at 730am, ate a light breakfast, checked out of the resort and then headed to the rental car facility which was not too far from the airport to drop off our car.  Then we took the sky train to the airport.  Our flight from Phoenix to Denver was delayed by 1 hour which ended up turning into 2 hours and then we discovered that our next flight, where we already had a long 3 hour layover, was now going to be delayed for another 2 and a half hours!   By the time we got back to Hartford, Connecticut it was 345am Eastern time.  We made it home around  4am so I unpacked (yes I am still that anal girl), showered and slept for 3 hours as I had to get up at 730am for my weekly Saturday morning hair appointment.

Was the trip to  the Desert worth it – YES!  Will we do it again – YES, but next time we will stay in Sedona or closer to the Grand Canyon for a different kind of experience.  #YOLO

 

Sincerely,

 

 

TVFL

 

My Current Situation Part XII

 

It is now November of 2025 and my current situation is a mixed bag.  There are lots of highlights though and that is what I will focus on here:

 

 

My 92-year old infirmed father,  Jonie B. Hollis,  just got a new and wayyyy better roommate at the Old Saybrook, CT nursing home where he resides…

 

 

My projected sales outlook for the remainder of this year at WTNH TV News 8 is ending on a high note…

 

 

The cool and brisk temperatures in the state of Connecticut this Fall are bringing out a desire in me to cook again (smile)…

 

 

I’m feeling healthy and strong and able to continue with my early bird 5am high-intensity workouts at Orangetheory Fitness in Hamden, CT…

 

 

I constantly try and remind myself  to count my blessings as I look around me and notice that the world we once knew is falling apart week by week…

 

 

Sincerely,

 

 

TVFL

 

 

The Big Easy

I can finally check off that I traveled to The Big Easy aka New Orleans, Louisiana while on  vacation.  Ever since I saw the movie The Big Easy starring Dennis Quaid and Ellen Barkin I’ve been so wanting to go.  That movie was a hoot! And it came out in 1986 – 39 years ago!  Then 13 years ago I saw another movie about Louisiana that resonated with me but in a much different way.  It was called Beasts of the Southern Wild and it came out in 2012.  It starred then 6 year old Quvenzhane Wallis who was nominated for Best Actress Oscar at the tender age of 9 for her groundbreaking performance.  A phenomenal movie which I will never forget.  So much so that I held off traveling to Louisiana because the movie was all about the forgotten people in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina and I did not want to even think about the horror and destruction…So here we are in 2025 and it’s the 20th anniversary of Hurricane Katrina so of course I’m going (smile).

 

In real life I make all of the travel arrangements for me and James, my life partner, so while browsing online for hotels in the French Quarter, I searched for some place real, some place authentic, a place that would speak to the New Orleans experience.  I booked our hotel stay at The Royal Sonesta – New Orleans, a luxury hotel situated right on Bourbon Street.  I chose it so that we could truly be surrounded by all the sights and sounds of the city.  I did not choose wrong.  The Royal Sonesta – New Orleans took up a whole city block, featured a doorman and was outfitted with 3 uniquely different restaurants – Desire Oyster Bar, The Jazz Playhouse and Restaurant Revolution.  As part of it there was also a lively bar facing the street called Le Booze’ as well as  PJ’s Coffee House of New Orleans which sold coffee, sandwiches, fruit, pastries and such.  Our hotel room with an interior balcony and king sized bed was located on the 3rd floor where (lucky for us!)  The Oasis Bar at the Pool was also located and open from 7am to dusk.

 

 

Wisely enough The Royal Sonesta gave us a $15 dollar a day credit to be used at any of the aforementioned properties and we had only 6 days and 5 nights to explore the French Quarter so explore it we did (smile).

 

Sunday October 12th

Did I mention that we traveled in the month of October?  You would not have known it was October because the weather felt like late August back in New England where I’m from – here it was mid to high 80s all week long, little or no humidity and sunshine for days!

 

We checked in well after the designated time of 4pm because the hotel had a huuuuuge party the night before that had just dispersed so our rooms were not ready.  We gave them our luggage to store away and headed through the courtyard to Desire Oyster Bar to try some of those chargrilled oysters we had heard so much about from friends back home.

 

Chargrilled Oysters – yummy but salty

 

After picking up and dropping off our bags in our now finished room we headed out (by the way you do not need a car in the French Quarter as everything is accessible by foot, by pedicabs, by horse and buggy carriages, by trolley, by bus, by ferry, by boat, by Uber or by limousine.

We were starving, the dozen of chargrilled oysters were good but real salty so they just exacerbated my hunger.  We stopped at a place nearby called The House of Buns where I ordered the Red Beans and Rice.

 

 

Afterwards we walked the streets and I felt like I was in the middle of Spring Break for all ages: young, old and in between.  Lots of people walking everywhere but from what we heard the crowds were thin and nothing like what was to come, i.e., Thursday night and the weekend…

 

A looooong game of Chess with Bayou Bobby and his latest prey (smile)

 

It was around this time that I started feeling tired (I had woke up that morning at 5am for our long travel day which took us from Bradley Airport in Windsor, CT to Charlotte, North Carolina and finally to New Orleans, Louisiana) so I was beat.  Not to mention the hour time change…But nothing a hot shower and a good night’s sleep wouldn’t fix.

 

Monday, October 13th 

We woke up late on Monday morning (I think it was after 830am which is late to me since in real life I wake up at 430am 5 days a week to head to the Orangetheory gym in Hamden for a kick-a– class (smile).

We decided on visiting The Garden District on our first day so we could get closer to the water.  We took a City trolley there for one low price of $3.00 (the ticket to ride lasted all day long for trolleys and/or buses).

 

You can ride the trolley or bus all day long on any given day for just 3 dollars!

 

We were starved when we arrived in the Garden District so we rang the bell and got off in front of this cute French restaurant called La Boulangerie on Magazine Street – like a lot of the fast casual restaurants – you order your food first, take your number and find a table.  The waitress or waiter then brings your food and drink to your table.  I ordered a sausage, egg and cheese on an english muffin and a double expresso.  It was delish~

 

Delish breakfast at La Boulangerie on Magazine Street

 

We headed to the Riverwalk Mall where there were restaurants, shops and you guessed it, the river (smile).  It was another beautiful day so we walked the boardwalk, went window shopping in the mall and then headed out to Caesar’s Casino to get our gambling on.

 

Loved the Riverwalk Mall

 

Caesar’s Casino – not so much…

 

We did not feel like waiting for a trolley car or bus to arrive so on the way back we caught a pedicab for just $20 bucks and our driver pedaled us back to the hotel in no time.

 

Our Nola pedicab driver

 

After a quick shower and fresh clothes,  we headed out for dinner and this time we dined at Nola because they had an upstairs balcony with al fresco dining so we could people watch while we ate.

 

 

Then we bar hopped (not for drinks but for live bands and karaoke) and were back in our hotel room by midnight.

 

 

Tuesday October 14th

We ate breakfast at the hotel this morning – Desire Oyster Bar (yes, they serve breakfast too!).  I had a huge bowl of steel cut oats with candied pralines, brown sugar and raisins and a large coffee.   It was delish!

 

Desire serves breakfast, lunch and dinner and even boasts a happy hour!

 

After breakfast we spent the day poolside at The Oasis Bar at the Pool to soak up the sun and relax before taking a shower, changing our clothes and heading out to Mother’s Restaurant.  My girlfriend Jeani in Atlanta works for Delta Airlines and she and her husband Brian travel everywhere so when she makes a recommendation, we listen (smile).  We walked to the restaurant as it was only about 12 minutes away.  It was crowded!  We waited in the ordering line, took our number and looked for a table way in the back because the front of the restaurant was already jam packed with people.  I had Jerry’s Jambalaya with cabbage and red beans and rice.  I drank iced water with lemon (actually I drank iced water with lemon with all of my meals as number 1: I don’t drink alcohol anymore and number 2: I knew I would be consuming an extraordinary amount of food on this vacay (smile).

 

 

 

At night we bar hopped again (for live music and karaoke) and found a spot where the singer originally from New Orleans had a rich and powerful voice.  We stayed out that night ’till 11pm then went back to our room and hung out on our balcony deck which faced the courtyard, not the street.

 

The hotel room door which led to our balcony

 

Wednesday October `15th

We woke up late again and headed to Desire Oyster Bar for breakfast where I had the same thing – a huge bowl of steel cut oatmeal with candied pralines, brown sugar and raisins.  Then we headed to the Nola Visitor Center to buy 2 tickets to an Airboat Swamp Tour (James’s pick).  We purposely opted to not go on a lot of tours for this trip as we felt as if we could navigate the city without them.  But this tour spoke to James so I agreed (smile).

Our Swamp tour was on a small airboat which carried up to 10 passengers.  With transportation to the pier and the tour it cost us $119 per person.  It was worth it though because we went deep into the swamp and stayed for almost 2 hours with a tour guide who was native to the area – 5th generation bayou family member – he regaled us with stories of him and his friends hanging out in the swamp when they were little boys looking for alligators and snakes.  He called the swamp his “backyard.”  I called him our Crocodile Dundee (smile).

 

Crocodile Dundee (smile)

 

The picture that was made for us before we even stepped into the Airboat (smile).

 

The alligators loved the marshmallows we fed them because of their white color

 

For lunch we found a cool looking restaurant called Crescent City Brewhouse on Decatur Street where I ordered the wild tagliatelle pasta with grilled chicken and a side salad.

 

 

Fun Fact:  Our waiter, Joshua G. was also a budding actor.  He told us he was on pins and needles about a 2nd call back he just received for a role he was praying about and then told us he played the Jamaican dude in Kevin Hart and Will Ferrell’s Get Hard movie.  I googled “Jamaican in Get Hard with Kevin Hart” later that day and watched Joshua’s scene with a big smile on my face.  He was very good!

 

After we ate we went out for a long walk where we ran into the Louie Armstrong Park and more street performers.  Even one who sounded like so much like John Legend that we thought the outdoor restaurant was playing his song, Ordinary People on loud speakers.  It was another beautiful day.

 

I notice there is a lot of talent in this town – American Idol should take notice – this singer sounds just like John Legend~

 

We then took the trolley back to Bourbon Street and walked into a record store called Peaches Records!  I was so surprised because it’s not every day you see a record store in a city.  As it turned out, this record store was unique in that it used to be a Woolworth’s Store back in the 1960s where one of the more notable sit-ins took place.  Seven students staged a sit-in at the Woolworths lunch counter to protest racial segregation.

 

 

Thursday October 16th

We were running out of time but could not leave New Orleans without at least trying a beignet – so many people, including my gym friend Penthy, told me how goooood the beignet was.  As it turned out there was a Cafe Beignet right across from our hotel.  At this Cafe Beignet the  dining was al fresco and it featured live jazz musicians, in this case a 3 piece band.  I had scrambled eggs with white cheddar cheese and bacon on a plain bagel with black coffee.  James had 3 different flavored beignets so I took a bite out of one of his beignets (smile).  It was tasty for sure.

 

 

That night for dinner we ate at Acme Restaurant which my gym friend Anne M. highly recommended.  We had tried to go to Acme Restaurant on Monday night but there was a large water main break that night which shut down all of the restaurants and bars on the street.  The TV news reporter was there interviewing one of the chefs so I had to smile since I’m in the TV industry.

 

Can’t go anywhere without seeing a TV news reporter (smile)

 

Anyway, we waited in line at Acme because it was so popular and then were seated in the back.  I enjoyed the seafood medley which was well worth the wait.

 

 

That night we listened to live jazz music but this time at The Jazz Playhouse in our hotel.  I drank 2 mocktails as we listened to the sounds of The Brass-A-Holics.  This group was incredible as they all played musical instruments including the saxophone which is my personal favorite. I would have taken pictures of these gorgeous male musicians but my phone had died – bummer!   At the end of the night The Brass-A-Holics summoned everyone out of their seats to follow them around the restaurant where we all marched/danced to When the Saints Go Marching In.  It was another memorable evening spent with people whom I’ll probably never see again in my life (smile).

 

Friday October 17th

Travel day – I have to note: Traveling by air today is exhausting and it really tries your nerves – we almost missed our connection two times (one time on the way to Louisiana, one time on the way back from Louisiana) through no fault of our own.   Another thing –  on the flight headed to New Orleans our Pilot informed us that he thought he was going home after his shift had ended but was asked at the last minuteto stay on and take our flight so I’m thinking, Oh no, he’s really tired… Anyway, he then proceeded to tell us that 3 things needed to be fixed before we could actually take off so our flight would be delayed but he would keep us posted as each one was completed.  He came back after each one was completed to let us know the status.  On the 3rd “thing” he accidentally said it was ‘good enough’ and then changed it to mean it easily passed all of the tests but all I kept thinking was ‘good enough.’  Yikes!  As it turned out, God protected us and got us back safely so I really have nothing to complain about right?!? (smile).

 

At any rate, here are my memories of New Orleans in October:

Beautiful sunny and hot weather

Bare legged tattooed ladies

Daiquiris and pizza shops

Jello Shots

Po’Boys

Loud competing music in the streets

Independent art galleries in the Art District

Apartments, condos and homes with unique architecture and ironwork balconies

Street sweepers in the early morning cleaning up the mess from the night before

Poverty stricken children of color drumming on empty canisters for dollars

Homeless sleeping in the street

Young male street performers holding court on Bourbon Street while entertaining the crowds

Caleb the funny doorman at The Royal Sonesta

 

Sincerely,

 

TVFL

 

Me and Baby Brother

I have been thinking about my baby brother Shawn a lot lately.  Even dreaming about him.  It’s been 20 years since his death and although the pain has subsided, it still feels like a dull ache that never quite goes away.

 

Baby brother Shawn

 

Growing up Hollis my father Jonie B. was very strict.  He joined the United States Navy when he was just 19 years of age so I imagine a lot of what he learned in the Navy from a discipline standpoint, he imparted onto his own family.  Shawn and I were the youngest of 7 children (5 girls, 2 boys) so we bore the brunt of it.  My mother was a “housewife” at the time and was always there to make sure our childhood was as pleasant as possible.

 

Jonie Benjamin Hollis

 

Shawn was the youngest of us 7 Hollis children and the true ‘baby of the family’.  I remember being quite jealous when he was born because I was just 2 years old and no longer the baby of the family.  It reminds me of that song, “Lonely Boy,” by Andrew Gold because this baby boy, being an “only child,” was doted on by his parents until 2 years later when his baby sister came along and suddenly all of the attention and focus shifted to her.  This obviously does not perfectly apply to my situation since I’m a girl, Shawn’s a boy and there were 5 other children born before us, but I can certainly relate to that little boy’s pain (smile).

 

6th from left to right and no longer the “baby of the family”

 

Shawn had a wonderful personality and a smile that could light up a room.  The fact that he was “easy on the eyes” didn’t hurt either…People naturally gravitated towards him because of his friendly demeanor, sensitive nature and kind ways.  As I mentioned before, Shawn and I played together as siblings do but to be honest, I was more concerned with hanging out with my 4 older sisters who I looked up to and emulated as best as I could.  Being the baby girl, they didn’t want me around so I started forging my own friendships with girls my age at school and at home.

 

Shawn was smart as a whip from day one and also very sensitive by nature.  As he got older his sensitivity became more and more of a liability as people tend to equate a gentle nature and kindness with weakness.  Still it did not seem to faze him, he did not try to change his personality, he just lived out his truth.

 

Like a lot of boys at the time, Shawn joined the Boy Scouts to fit in.  This ended up  backfiring on him though because most of the activities were father-son related and our father was out to sea a good portion of the year living on submarines to build his Naval career.  In other words, not able to be there for Shawn like the fathers of the other boy scouts were there for their sons.  My mother tried to help out but it wasn’t the same…

 

My mother Jean with her 2 sons Shawn and Michael

Shawn was gifted with a creative mind so he became a self-taught musician – he taught himself how to play guitar at a very young age and drew on inspiration from a relatively unknown Indie musician at the time named Prince (smile).  I remember hearing Prince’s music coming from his bedroom and thinking, who in their right mind could listen to that mess (smile).   When Shawn graduated from high school he applied for and was accepted into the prestigious Berkelee School of Music but dropped out after a few semesters due to financial issues as well as feelings of loneliness and isolation.

 

Shawn also had a short stint in the U.S. Army but the service life did not agree with him.

 

When Shawn passed, I had just started working months before as an Account Executive at WTNH TV News 8.  As it turned out, learning my new gig (broadcast television sales) felt like learning a whole new language.  However this learning curve turned into a blessing in disguise because it acted as a good distraction for me after the heartache of losing a loved one.  I was having a difficult time processing the loss of my baby brother and to be honest, I even felt a little guilty about what more I could have done as his sister who was closest in age to him and probably understood him more from our shared experiences in childhood and such.  The funeral was surreal, people from our childhood in Groton, CT showed up, as well as family, friends, and member of my Christian Tabernacle Baptist Church family.  My News 8 sales managers and sales colleagues showed up in full force which meant the world to me, a mere newbie at that time.

 

Little Brother with Big Brother
Left to Right – back row – Dana, Shawn, Michael, Elena, Lajeune front row – Casandra my mother Jean, Joandra

 

As what usually happens after a funeral, a flood of memories arrived of our brief time together.  Relatively speaking, I have way more memories of our short lives together growing up Hollis than I do of our lives after high school and college.   Shawn became somewhat reclusive in his last 10 years on earth.  And it was hard to reconcile.  Life hadn’t turned out the way Shawn expected so most of the news that I received about him was from my dear mother Jean when I swung by to visit her over the weekend.   Growing up though Shawn and I, being the youngest in the family, got along pretty well.   We had fights like brothers and sisters do but for the most part we played nice.  Shawn was so easygoing and likable it was hard not to get along with him.   My mother also made sure that we kids were all involved in some kind of activity after school as well as during the Summer months so there was always something going on.  As we got older and started high school, the other kids had moved out so it was just me, Shawn and our mother at home.  My parents had separated by then.

 

A collage of Shawn that truly captures his spirit – thanks for putting this together Big Brother Mike

 

Looking ahead, what Shawn’s short time on this earth has taught me is to be kind, you never know what someone is going through or has gone through.  Be compassionate as compassion is free and show empathy to those people who may be different from you.  Life is too short to not appreciate it as and for the gift that it is.

 

Sincerely,

 

TVFL

 

 

 

 

SAT, A surprise to me!

San Antonio, Texas (SAT)

My most recent mini vacay was to San Antonio, Texas which is located in South Central Texas with a population of 1.5 million people.  San Antonio is 150 miles from the Mexican border and to say the Tex Mex influence is strong would simply be an understatement (smile).  Why San Antonio?   Well, because my fraternal twin nephews, Marcus and Marshall who will be 40 this year, have been living there for well over a decade and up until this point, I had yet to visit them.   Their sister and my niece, Dimitrica, who will be 46 this year and resides in North Carolina with her husband and son, arranged to meet me so we could share a hotel room.  This was to be a short trip but one where we planned on lots of  family fun, bonding and catching up on lost time.

 

La Fogata with L to R: Marcus, Me, Marshall, Dimitrica

 

Our very first meal when we arrived was at a restaurant called La Fogata.  Dan Fenyn, my sales manager Jocelyn Fenyn’s husband, highly recommended it.  Dan was not wrong,  not only was the food we ordered delish but the ambience spoke to a highly authentic and true Mexican experience.

 

Standing in the doorway of La Fogata

 

My dish at La Fogata – Cheese quesadillas with specially seasoned shrimp and spinach

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Canopy by Hilton San Antonio Riverwalk

This is the hotel I booked for our 4 day, 3 night stay.   I purposely chose this hotel because it is across the street from the Riverwalk plus it is right in downtown San Antonio where all the restaurants, shops and outdoor activity were located.  Plus we needed a place that we could easily walk to and from.  It’s amazing what you can do in a 4-day weekend (Friday  – Monday) trip when you travel from another coast and are given an extra hour to work with (smile).

 

Canopy by Hilton San Antonio Riverwalk
Clean room, comfy beds, nice showers and strong coffee

 

Modes of transportation

We noticed there were may different modes of transportation for those people who were not driving.   Scooter rentals, Electric bike rentals, even Segway rentals lined the downtown streets.   I could not help but notice the very large, very loud pick-up trucks flying up and down the downtown streets adding to the traffic congestion.

 

Electric bikes for rent

Scooters for rent

And I was blown away by the carriage rides populating downtown streets – so many at once and all decorated in different seasonal themes and colors!  It seemed like everywhere we turned we would come upon a family or a couple or a group of friends on a horse drawn carriage ride!  At nighttime it was super cool to see because the carriage was now brightly lit with different colored lights and music played throughout.  I looked at what it cost to take a ride on the horse drawn carriage:  $75 dollars for 1 person and $35 dollars for each person thereafter for a 20 minute ride.  $100 dollars for 1 person and $50 dollars for each person thereafter for a 30 minute ride.  And one child rides free with each paying adult.

 

From daytime to nighttime, these horse carriage rides suited everyone’s wish lists

 

The Alamo

Aptly described as an “18th century Spanish mission preserved as a museum.”  We could not leave San Antonio without at least visiting The Alamo.  It was just as I expected…

 

The Alamo

 

The Canopy hotel restaurants

Another reason me and Dimitrica  enjoyed staying at the Canopy was because you did not have to leave the hotel for good breakfast food.   We ate hearty breakfasts every morning at Domingo Restaurante and for nighttime mocktails, the rooftop deck at Otro was the place to hang out and relax after a fun-filled busy day.

 

Domingo Restaurante by day

 

Texas sized bowls of oatmeal for breakfast at Domingo!

Otro on the rooftop at night for mocktails and apps

The Riverwalk

We discovered the San Antonio Riverwalk on our second day.   It had become a source of conversation to me by so many people the very second I mentioned I was visiting family in San Antonio.  The Riverwalk is just like it sounds.  It’s a miles-long pedestrian walkway with a river running through it.  It is truly underground so you have to get to it by taking steps down from the street.  The river is surrounded by restaurants, cafes, bistros, shops, retail clothing stores, boutique hotels and the like.  Every time we walked down the steps to the Riverwalk, (for short cuts or to find a new shop) we would see masses of people browsing around, shopping, eating and/or sight seeing.

 

My niece at the top of the stairs

 

Me at the top of the walkway from The Riverwalk

 

Go Rio

While walking around the Riverwalk, we kept seeing river boat cruises filled with tourists passing us by.  We were told by the hotel staff that if we decide to take a river cruise we should to catch one at night as it’s cooler in temperature, the boat is well lit and decorated and music is played throughout the promenade.  We finally took them up on it on Day 3 of 4 – the 35 minuted guided tour was so fun and festive and the cost was a small $14.00 per person!

 

Our young and very comedic Go-Rio tour guide kept us in stitches the entire ride!

Passing another passenger-packed Go Rio cruise boat while on our own tour

 

La Cantera Resort and Spa

We purchased a Resort Day Pass for $65 (Marshall’s brilliant idea) to the La Cantera Resort and Spa.  This luxury resort and spa is known for its private villas, fine dining, wellness spas, championship golf and celebrity sightings.  By purchasing a Resort Day Pass we were able to have access to the pool side of things.  So on day 3 we spent half the day poolside where we enjoyed the infiniti pool, delicious  lunch and laying out on lounge chairs.  We also took advantage of the hot tub where we met a loud and raucous middle aged man who was pretty accurate at guessing our personality traits (smile).   At the lazy river pool we played pool games with floaties and then rode down what were kiddie slides just for Ha Ha’s.

 

Well maintained Infiniti pool

 

Pool games, fabulous food and lots of fun

 

Making memories poolside at La Cantera Resort and Spa

 

Pandora’s Bookstore & Coffee Bar/Pure Aloha Bath & Beauty

Marshall (my nephew and our unofficial tour guide) told us about an African-American owned bookstore-cafe downtown which collaborated on space with a natural plant based beauty, cosmetic and personal care shop.  We were so impressed when we stepped into this cute shop which had a nice collection of goods and a real positive vibe.  I enjoyed meeting the owners (who have now become good friends) of both of these shops as they complement each other in the best way.  Be sure to check them out if you visit San Antonio as you will not be disappointed.

 

I had a Deja Vu moment when I met Barbara Thomas the bookstore cafe owner – I can’t explain it – I just felt like that scene had already played out…
Enjoyed meeting and chatting with the owner of Pure Aloha. She is a wife, mother, and now small business owner living the dream

 

Bohanan’s

Bohanan’s (another Marshall pick) was a place Dimitrica and I had walked by during our daily recreational walks throughout downtown.  The storefront truly did not do it any justice as when we entered the jazz supper club and restaurant, we were pleasantly surprised by piano bar and the funky vibe.  I ordered a mocktail garnished with jalapeño peppers and Marshall and Dee each had a specialty expresso martini drink.

 

The exterior of Bohanon’s

 

Mocktails and Cocktails at Bohanon’s Jazz club

 

Marcus’s family home

My nephew Marcus, his wife Asuka and kids live in a house in the suburbs of San Antonio.  His wife was gracious enough to offer up a traditional japanese meal made from scratch.  We had the best time at their house that day.  It rained for a spell so we stayed inside and ate handmade Sushi and Sashimi and Tofu Salad with sesame seed dressing and a deliciously prepared thinly cut beef ribs and chicken.  I ate 2 plates and then understood why Marcus said he does not eat out at restaurants anymore (smile).  We also played games with the kids in the game room which featured game chairs for Street Fighters, a basketball net and more.

 

Family pictures – making memories in San Antonio

 

This is all homemade Japanese cuisine – courtesy of Marcus’s wife Asuka – can’t blame him for not wanting to eat out anymore (smile)

 

Historic Market Square

Ironically the evening Dimitrica and I decided to walk to this collection of restaurants and shops in an indoor space, mostly all of the shops were closed.  Not too surprising though because it was a Sunday night and it was about 10pm…However the much talked about Mi Tierra Cafe and Bakery was still open which pleased Dimitrica, who was in search of the authentic Mexican Hot Chocolate and a sweet treat to go with it.   The lively decor featured live Mexican music,  mariachi dancers, a fun atmosphere, costumed staff and instagram-worthy photo backdrops!  Oh and Dimitrica said the hot chocolate was delish!

I feel like me and Dimitrica were right inside of a festive carinival!

 

Mi Tierra is known not just for their delish authentic Mexican cuisine but also for their lively atmosphere

 

Centro San Antonio

One of the most interesting things I discovered during my quick trip to San Antonio is that there are a group of uniformed ambassadors called Centro San Antonio who are based downtown and work to keep it clean, safe and welcoming for the merchants as well as City visitors.  Whether you are looking for directions to someplace or need assistance or information,  they are trained to help.  As it turns out, there are a number of homeless people in this large City who live downtown so another very important part of Centro’s mission is to offer them a safe place to live, food to eat, clothing to wear, a drug free program if needed and a safe space where they feel welcome.  Sixto or “Six,” as he is referred to on the street, was a welcoming source of information to me and my niece while we walked around downtown.

 

Centro Ambassador Sixto

 

This Centro Ambassador set-up is for the homeless when they are thirsty and looking for a free bottle of cold water

 

TV News station

I work in local sales at an ABC affiliated TV news station in New Haven, CT called WTNH News 8 so whenever I travel, I always look to see what the local news looks and feels like.  Here is a snapshot of what I saw in in San Antonio:

 

Good Morning San Antonio

 

And finally,  if you are looking for an affordable place to live and work, my nephews (who both work in IT) tell me that San Antonio fits the bill.  Housing is cheaper, jobs are available, ethnic food is plentiful, there’s lots to see and do and the residents are friendly.  I am so glad I finally made the trip.

 

Sincerely,

 

 

TVFL